Is it better to ask permission or forgiveness? That depends upon who you ask. If you ask the one who’s contemplating saying or performing a certain action; for which he or she is not absolutely certain, most likely they would say; “better to act now and ask forgiveness later.” If you ask the one who might be offended; they would say; “it’s better to ask permission first.”
Today’s verse declares; “To whom much is given, much is required.” That statement applies to our money, our time, our talents. How do you spend them? Do you use the blessings of God; however you want and then have to ask His forgiveness later; or do you talk to Him about the direction you should take. One of the most important disciplines to consider in permission or forgiveness; is the use of the tongue.
God’s Word is always our standard. The book of Proverbs addresses the issue of permission or forgiveness, over and over.
Proverbs 18:2 “A fool has no delight in understanding, But in expressing his own heart.”
Proverbs 18:7 “A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul.”
Proverbs 18:15 “The heart of the prudent acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.”
Here’s a verse to remember; while contemplating whether to act now or ask forgiveness later:
Proverbs 18:19 “A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a castle.”
Finally let’s look at Proverbs 18: 21 ” Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat it’s fruit.”
James 3:8-10 tells us “But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing….”
When considering the whole permission or forgiveness thing; I think we would do well to ask God; “Is this okay with You?” Does this line up with your Word? “Does it build up the person, or tear them down?” “What are the benefits of what I am about to say or do?” If it is helpful to rebuild and restore a broken relationship; then go for it. If it will make the gap wider; then zip those lips or restrain those actions. Continue to talk to God and seek His face and know His heart.
Prayer in Motion:
Lord, help me remember to ask You permission, before I speak out of turn or act in a way that does not bring honor and glory to You. Teach me Lord, to seek Your face and know Your heart.